Names are powerful.
There is no denying that. I spend time choosing the perfect name for every character I've ever written. If I have a name in mind - I look up the origin, the meaning and every possible way said name could be spelled until I find the right one.
I want to talk about name calling. For many, it's an instant turn off. Offensive. Distasteful.
I get it.
In my latest release, Talk Sexy, Michael (Ian) calls Peyton his 'submissive little slut.' The first time he says it her pulse reacts and she is embarrassed by her physical reaction. Later, as their relationship grows he continues to call her by that name on occasion. Does he not respect her? Does he think she is an actual slut?
No. He understands that for her the name calling evokes a reaction within her she's been trying to hide. He uses that knowledge to draw out more of who she is - to not be ashamed of what she needs. His words are designed to help her grow.
For me, it's all about the context. A perfect stranger calling me a name? Uh, no.
But someone I trust? Someone I am attracted to...a lover I know respects me as a woman and as his? That's different to me. Now there are certain words I never want to hear as a black woman, but he'd already know that and the respect, the trust we've already established from the beginning allows me to trust him to never utter anything that would make me uncomfortable.
That's understood. He understands. I understand and our understanding opens up the doorway for other words to be used. Not to demean me, unless that is what I want at the moment. Not to hurt me, but to excite me, to make me flip the switch from our interactions in public to what just happens between us.
Us. Him and I.
Words are used to make me catch my breath and make my heart beat faster. Within a circle of trust, love and understanding I can be his whore, his slut. I'm his, treasured, adored and respected, but for just a moment...
moment...I let his hard words rain down over me like his cock inside of me and I bloom. I blossom, I grow because I KNOW who I am and I know HE knows too which makes this erotic play all the more sweeter...
Names have only as much power as you give them.
Remember that and don't be ashamed if name calling turns you on.
Talk Sexy is a five part serial. Part One is still a free download with Totally Bound!
Find Part Two and Three with Totally Bound here and on Amazon here!
Talk Sexy: Part Four will be available February 21st with Totally Bound!